Jewelry is Personal 💍

Yes, jewelry is personal! My journey through jewelry started when I was really little. Most of it was inexpensive vintage pieces passed on from grandparents--this was before knowing I look terrible in gold, and definitely before I cared. My style progressed to printed wristbands, beads, and sparkly, pastel butterfly earrings as a tween, and those items were so on trend at the time! Then in high school, of course, I did the goth phase. But no one ever told me that jewelry is personal.

Looking back, I know I was trying really hard to have a particular style--one that mimicked the tweens in fashion catalogs--rather than just experimenting. Even when I transitioned from lockets to chunky beads, I always thought it had to be one or the other, I could never mix gold metal with bright plastic. So here's a fun fact: just like clothing, you can also layer jewelry like crazy! Worst case scenario, you look silly in a photo and it's a fun story later on! Style is about you, what you like, what you feel comfortable and confident in, and no one is ever born knowing what that is.

Here are some of my favorite tips for finding your personal style...

If you have a hobby or passion, try charm bracelets. They start as a basic chain and clasp (toggle clasps are much less likely to break than lobster claws), and you can collect charms that attach to the chain. You could have a charm bracelet entirely devoted to animals and another charm bracelet entirely devoted to soccer, or you can have one bracelet that displays everything you love. This kind of jewelry is personal for sure! Careful though, charm collection can get expensive.

If you're interested in knowing whether gold or silver is more complementary, stand outside in the sun and look at the veins on the underside of your wrist. If they look blue, you probably have a cool skin tone and will glow in silver. If your veins look green, that indicates a warm skin tone--you can rock gold! And don't forget about rose gold, green gold, and bronze! If you're into metals there're a lot to try and most of them will tarnish to a new color over time, so unless your personal style is cool-toned metals only, there's no reason to not mix them!

Another way jewelry is personal is that the best sizes, shapes, and lengths depend on your build.

• Very thin jewelry on an athletic build can look out of place, while large, chunky jewelry, if you're petite, can look clunky.
  
  
• Long and Y-shaped necklaces can be very slimming (and make you look taller!), but they also catch on things (I may have closed one in a kitchen drawer once).
  
  
• If you feel like rings make your fingers look short, it's because straight lines widen. Try an S-shaped ring.
  
  
• Long, dangly earrings are very glamorous on round faces, large hoop earrings look amazing on diamond-shaped faces, and long, diamond-shaped earrings look fabulous on square faces.

I have a friend who collects jewelry with turquoise beads and stones--which, BTW, look stunning with wardrobe base colors (black, white, gray, navy). Personally, I'm obsessed with white crystal studding, but some of my favorite pieces don't fit this description. Also, I can't count how many of my friends never wear jewelry but still look pretty cool (even not wearing jewelry is personal)!

Style is how you tell the world who you are and what you like without ever saying anything. When I say "jewelry is personal," I mean that it's up to you. Just you. Yes, you can most definitely draw on inspiration from your friends and favorite pop stars, but how you choose to wear an item and what you choose to wear or not wear with it, that's style.

See you next week!

How to Shop (Part 1)

I learned how to shop mostly by watching other people--my mom, friends, Sandra Bullock's advice in a random movie: "if you don't love it in the store, you won't wear it."--and through a lot of trial and error. And I'm still learning how to shop! It's torturous--as in, being pinched over and over again by someone with long fingernails torturous--especially if you're shopping for an item like jeans or a dress and you're between sizes. But it's not all bad! In fact, once you figure out how to shop (or at least, better ways to shop), it's actually a lot of fun!

So, how to shop? Let's start at home. Back in my fashion show days (that makes me sound much older than I actually am), I would tell the show's models to arrive at the store for Shopping Day comfortably dressed in clothes you can easily change into/out of. It's tempting to show up decked out in hairspray, hoop earrings, and lace-up boots, but it's a nightmare! You lose so much time unlacing your boots to try on a pair of shorts and then relacing them to go look for the same shorts in a smaller size.

Think comfy (t-shirt, pants, slip-on shoes, wrist scrunchi, crossbody purse to keep your hands free and hold your sunglasses while you try on shirts. Camisoles are super because you can try some items on over the top. Also, if you plan to try on any shirts, wear shorts under dresses.) but DON'T leave frumpy. I noticed even as a middle-schooler that store staff can be rude and condescending, but sometimes dressing nicely can make a positive impact. And you'll be a much more confident shopper knowing you look like a total boss. That makes a big difference! I always try to remember that some of the staff I'll meet haven't had a good day, so I try to be very polite (smile, say, "Hi," make eye contact when entering the boutique/department). That's much easier when I'm not in baggy sweats and a camp t-shirt.

DON'T go shopping unless you know what you want. "I need new clothes" translates to "I have no idea what I want, so I'm going to unintentionally buy a lot of things I don't need, then have to go shopping again next week because I still need new clothes," That was my entire tweenhood. *tears*

Instead, make a list of things that will make your wardrobe awesome--the more detailed the better!

• lightweight jeans in a pale color that won't be too hot for summer
• plain t-shirt long enough I can lift my arms without baring my abdomen
• two tank tops for layering
• hoodie for the beach
• cute earrings for the beach

DON'T go shopping if you or the person you're shopping with is hungry, tired, or feeling sick. Talk your mom and fashion sister into sitting down and eating beforehand, or rescheduling the shopping trip for later. And always bring water with you to stay hydrated.

Plan your shopping trip for a weekend, day off, or evening when you have plenty of time to take your time.

Know your seasonal skin tone, the color beneath your skin color. Knowing what hue of red I look best in has saved me from buying dresses I'll never feel confident in, even though the color looked pretty in the store's lighting. Lots of websites and blogs talk about this, so I'll redirect you to one here. Once you find your season, just Google for color pallet images. Don't get too caught up in whether you're a soft summer or a cool summer: you're a summer (like me!), you can wear summer colors. Besides, you--and your fashion sister--know what you like and, together, will figure out what looks best.

--Side story: I once read a book where the author said summers absolutely cannot wear any black, but black comes in more than a handful of different tones, and I know without any doubt I can rock the blueish one. So don't take advice from rule-crazy fashion people too seriously.--

Wow, that's weird; this post is supposed to be about how to shop, but all we've covered is how to get ready to go shopping! That's because this is only how to shop part one. That's right! Learning how to shop is going to take more than one post, so stay tuned for part two!